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Friday Favorites: Mr. Crab

Today was a big day.  My husband graduated one of the longest, most difficult trainings the US Military has to offer.  This training has a 14% graduation rate, and he’s finished.  He did so well and I am so proud of him. 

It was emotional watching him get his crab pinned on. Not only has it been intense for him, but it has been for me too.  It’s finally over and our life will change forever.  I love him so much, and I couldn’t be more proud of him.  He is an amazing person and always does so well with what he sets his mind to. 

Congratulations to my Love!

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Sew Manly

My husband is in the military.  He collects guns and tactical gear.  Manly?  Oh, yeah.  He is the most manly man I have ever known.

Ever since I first met him, he has always been designing tactical gear and bags in his head.  One day last smmer, while browsing through a sewing store, he found a pattern for a diaper bag.  He thought it would make a great gear bag so he bought the pattern and the material to make it.

At first he asked me to sew it for him, but after looking throught the pattern, he decided he wanted to try it himself.  I showed him how to use the machine, and off he went.  After a weekend of nonstop sewing, his bag was finished, and a new man was created.  He was now a seamster (instead of seamstress).

He had a newfound appreciation for sewing, especially because it was a hobby be could have that wasn’t being threatened by laws (like gun stuff).

After he made the bag, he repurposed his old BDU uniforms into a quilt (a post about that later).

Our little machine was becoming and increasing problem for him.  It was small and finicky, and most home machines won’t sew through the type of material he was using.  After months of research, he bought a sewing machine for himself.  It’s a commercial machine and will sew through 1/2 inch thick leather.  It’s a beast.

After he purchased his machine, he has been sewing all kinds of gear.  He’s so good at sewing.  Our weekends are spent in the sewing room together, and we have really enjoyed it. 

There is a funny thing about a man sewing.  People say things like, “Wow, you’re really crafty” to him.  We both roll our eyes.  Crafty is popsicle sticks at 4H camp, or making holiday decorations for Super Saturday.  Sewing bags that hold magazine clips out of 1000 D nylon and chest rigs that hold shotgun shells is not crafty. 

When people come over and see his set up or the things he’s made, immediately they change their initial thoughts about him sewing.  “Holy crap, that’s awesome!”  

And he is awesome.

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What is Attachment Parenting?

Before I say much, I want to tell any readers about myself a little bit.  I strive for simplicity in life.  I don’t like things to get overcomplicated and I think people in general are just that- overcomplicated.  When making important life decisions, I try to tap into my natural instincts.  I feel that people are still just animals and so deep inside those natural instincts are there.  I often think of scenarios as if I were living in the natural community in a cave somewhere, surviving off foraged food.

When I was pregnant I often imagined what it would be like to raise a child in the natural community.  I decided to try natural childbirth.  I would try to breastfeed as if my life depended on it, babywearing seemed like a must (there are no strollers in the natural community [there are also no babycarriers, just arms, but babycarriers make carrying a baby easier]), and I felt sleeping next to my child was absolutely necessary.  The reason for this is that if I lived in a cave, I would never put my newborn baby in the next cave over just so I could get better rest.  I would protect my child from danger with my life, even while sleeping.  I feel that co-sleeping, for me, insured the survival of my baby.

Now I know that I don’t live in the natural community, I live in the comfort of a home and so these laws of survival don’t necessarily apply to me.  I don’t really care.  Why shouldn’t they apply to me?  In the case of co-sleeping it did.  If he was having irregular breathing or needed me for something, I wanted to be right there. 

These ideals I had developed are the very core of attachment parenting.  Only I didn’t know it.  I began hearing the term on natural parenting blogs and I didn’t understand what it entailed.  I would ask blog authors for more information about it and they would simply point me to a book -” The Baby Book” by Dr. William and Martha Sears.

I had a hard time finding it.  It wasn’t in my local library (hello Southern culture).  In my 34th week of pregnancy I found it at Babies R Us of all places.   I briefly flipped through it and I was sold.  It contained everything I had already decided and more.  More that went along with these ideals.

I was very irritated that these blog authors never explained what attachment parenting was.  If they were going to talk about it, and how wonderful it is for them, why don’t they define it?

Now I’m not irritated at them.  I should do my own research and it’s not their job to educate the world.  They know what it is, most of their readers know what it is, so why go into deeper detail?  I have found that there really is no information online about the topic, only opinions of parents (who rave about it).  The only real information is in the Baby Book.  So if anyone has more questions, I recommend this book.  In fact, I recommend this book to all parents and parents-to-be.  I recommend looking through it with an open mind and making an educated decision about how to raise your children.

That said, I have taken it upon myself to educate readers about it.  I am going to define it by using the information presented in Dr. Sears Baby Book.

First of all, it’s important to remember that attachment parenting is an ideal.  It’s not a set of strict laws.  If these ideals are practiced, even just a little bit, strong bonds form between parents and their children.  The term attached is referring to a great benefit- a child will become attached to their parent instead of a blanket, toy or pacifier.

There are “7 B’s” of attachment parenting.  Think of them as tips or suggestions for parents and babies to bond easier.

1. Birth Bonding; meaning that parents should plan for a pleasant birth experience and for early bonding with their babies.  This often means rooming in together at the hospital if at all possible.  Natural childbirth is encouraged, but a mother should never feel guilty about anything when it comes to childbirth, it’s a situation that tends to have its own plan.

2. Belief in your baby’s cries- Read and respond to your baby’s cues; this strongly appealed to my mama instincts.  I feel that babies don’t cry to annoy their parents- they are trying to communicate.

3. Breastfeed your Baby; anyone who has been reading my blog don’t need to read my input.  I am all for breastfeeding.  Attachment parenting is still practiced with bottle fed babies.  There are many situations that can be out of our control and breastfeeding happens to be one of them.  The Baby Book has a section on bottle feeding with love.  Attached parents don’t choose bottle feeding over breastfeeding.

4. Babywearing- Carry your baby a lot; holding your baby close has so many benefits.  This is a blog post in itself.

5. Bedding close to baby; for me and many parents this means co-sleeping.  But co-sleeping is not a cure-all situation and I know it doesn’t work for everyone.  If someone doesn’t want their baby in their bed, keep them in a bassinet close by or in a crib in the same room.  This ensures that in the night a parent will be there for the baby.  They will be able to respond before complaints get out of control and turn into an all-out cry.

6. Balance and Boundaries; Babies are demanding.  That is the simple truth.  It’s hard to tend to their every whim and to be honest, that should not happen.  Setting boundaries at an early age simply prevents problems from developing.  Parents should be appropriately responsive to their babies, and The Baby Book has the answers to every question I have ever come upon.  I feel it’s important to note that when practiced wisely, attachment parenting is not an all out give-a-thon.

7. Beware of baby trainers;  This is something that appeals to my sensitive side and I’ve felt strongly about this subject even before I knew about attachment parenting.  Parents should be warned that when it comes to children, everyone has their opinion and will let you know it.  It’s good practice to listen, and make an educated decision about everything.  For attached parents, warning flags fly when terms like, “Just let them cry it out,”  “You need to get that baby on a schedule”, “You’re spoiling your child because you hold them too much,”  or “You’re still nursing?” are thrown around.  Following these pieces of “advice” lead to a baby who doesn’t trust their parents to help them in their time of need.

Attachment parenting is, in my opinion, a good way to parent.  It’s not the only way and it doesn’t work for everyone. I cannot stress enough to everyone, please do your own research and make an educated decision for your own children, families, and based on your personal situation.

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Birthday Yarn!

My new LYS sent me a birthday card in the mail.  If I brought the card into the store I could get 20% my purchase one day in my birth month.  So- this weekend I bought some new yarn.  Not that I needed any AT ALL, but it’s my birthday.  I got 2 skeins of Malabrigo Merino Worsted, 1 Malabrigo sock, 2 skeins of Blue Sky Alpacas 100% Alpaca Sport, 2 skeins of Noro Silk Garden, Some Gingher embroidery shears, and some new tapestry needles.  For some reason I’m always losing my tapestry needles.  My husband put some new ones in my basket and I didn’t even realize until after we got home.  It was a little gift from him I suppose!  He picked out some winners!  Until now I’ve been using plastic and they aren’t very good.  He got me some metal ones that are slanted at the tip.  He really did a good job of picking them out.

 

I LOVE the little Gingher scissors.  They were expensive but worth it.  Them and the new tapestry needles make weaving in ends fun!

I have had a love/ hate relationship with sewing.  I have struggled with it like you wouldn’t believe.  I want to sew but I have issues and I don’t know what’s wrong.  Anyway, this past weekend we bought a few simple sewing books that are written for the very beginner.  I hope I can read the patterns step by step and figure out what’s going wrong.  I want to be a good seamstress, I really do.  Hopefully I can work through my issues.

I collect cards with Pugs on them.  For my birthday my husband and baby gave me this card:

Derek made me the best cake ever.  He’s getting into chocolate making and slathered my chocolate cake with peanut butter chocolate ganache.  He is so talented and the best husband ever!  I just love him so much. 

The cake itself is vegan, but the ganache is not.  I guess that’s why I don’t call myself vegan, so I can be flexible.  And I think I deserve to cheat a bit too, which is a good thing because I cheated and had veggie pizza for my birthday dinner!  I was such a naughty girl, lol!

Also this weekend we went to Hard Rock Cafe.  Ever since the Beef O’ Brady’s fiasco, I’ve made a habit of asking the host if there are vegetarian options before trying a new place.  The host got all excited and said “I’m vegan and I eat here all the time!”  Then he went through the menu with me and said if things contained dairy and eggs. 

I ordered the veggie burger with no cheese.  Our waiter came back out and asked if I wanted the mayo since I didn’t specify when he took the order.  I was SO impressed with the service we received there.  Most places make me feel like a picky brat by not wanting animal products.  I don’t want to make it a big deal, but as often as I can I want to keep myself from exploiting animals.  Some people stay away from alcohol or pork or need their food to be kosher.  I don’t understand why it’s such a big deal to offer options to everyone, regardless of their beliefs and especially allergies or dietary restrictions because of medical reasons.

Anyway, the waiter made me so happy.  Hard Rock Cafe is true to their slogan “Love All, Serve All.”  And now I love them!

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